Have you ever asked yourself what success is? If you look up for the word in the Cambridge dictionary you’ll find yourself with the next definition: “(the prosperity gained by) the achievement of an aim or purpose”.
The vast majority of us, humans, spend our lives trying to achieve goals related to careers or social-economical status and yet when we achieve those goals we still feel unhappy and unsuccessful–That’s because most of the time we don’t really know what makes us truly happy. Therefore we don’t have a clear idea of what success is.
What does success mean to you?
This is a tough question. It is not an answer you’ll get in your morning meditation or chat with your pillow at night. Defining success takes time and achieving those successes takes even more time. Success, for some people can mean being married, getting a new house, and having kids. Others see success as having a big bank account and the car of their dreams. Maybe get a major or a PhD in their careers.
So, does this definition apply to everybody?
Truthfully, the only person who can give you a definition of success is yourself. And because success is so subjective, the definition, in most cases, will change from person to person. The most important part of this is that you feel happy with yourself and what you are achieving.
There are no deadlines. Success has no time limits.
Your success is up to you. Take your time. Believe in yourself. Did you know that the famous writer J.R.R. Tolkien was almost 62 years old when his masterpiece The Lords of the Rings was first published? If you can dream it, you can make it too. But there are some things to keep in mind in your journey.
Success is something you build and it doesn’t happen overnight. It means to be in a place where you have everything that you ever wanted and dreamt of. It simply takes time. In order to do that you’ll need to set goals and then make them happen.
Achieving some of those goals is some sort of success but you want to keep pushing harder and find joy in between. Muhammad Ali once said: “I hated every minute of training, but I said to myself, ‘Don’t quit. Suffer now, and live the rest of your life as a champion”.
Don’t quit, you’ll get there.
It’s gonna be hard, but you can make it. Perseverance is a key element of success. In many cases it will all depend on your willingness to keep fighting in spite of the struggle.
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You have to trust in yourself. Stop comparing yourself to other people. Success is not about doing exactly the same things as others to measure your worth. Everybody has their own time.
Failure is more than that
This is very important to understand. We all need to learn to recognize the achievements we have made. We’re not “a failure” until we achieve our dreams or we start feeling successful. We fail, but we learn while we’re failing too.
How do you look yourself in one year? in five years? in ten years? Remember that this is all about the journey. Short term goals will create long-term success. Following someone else’s dreams and goals will bring you unhappiness and therefore it will lead you away from real success.
Building your own path means that sometimes you’ll have to take baby steps. But don’t feel overwhelmed, take it one day at a time.
By this point you’re probably asking yourself, what do successful people look like? and how are you supposed to know that you’re successful? Even though there’s no real scheme on how someone successful is supposed to look, the moment you realize you’re happy with what you do and you feel fulfilled, that’s when you start to realize, you are close to being successful.
There are some habits you can start practicing that can improve your chances of achieving success. Let’s talk about them.
Exercise And Eat Healthy.
Health is not only a physical state where there’s absence of disease, but it’s also a mental and social state of well being. Having healthy eating habits and exercising regularly will help you feel good with yourself.
Take a morning walk, do some cardio or go to the gym, once you start feeling that energy, nothing will stop you. And don’t forget that breakfast is the most important meal of the day. Living a healthy life will have a huge impact on your day-to-day performance.
Get Enough Sleep And Wake Up Early
A big mistake that many people make is to think that sleeping is a waste of time. It is true that there will be times in which you might have too much on your hands, but a good rest is the only thing that can keep you going at your full capacity. So, prevent burnout. Get at least 8 hours of good sleep per day. If you sleep enough you’ll increase your productivity and performance.
In the same way, waking up early will give more time to commit to your goals and start a routine. Most people wake up late or with just enough time to do something before going to work. It is not easy to change this if you already made a habit out of it, but the moment you start waking up early, the days start feeling much better.
Train Body and Mind
Move your body during the day! Take a short walk and if you can leave the phone behind, even better. Even 5-10 minutes daily, can greatly help you deal with stress. The benefits of exercise in our state of mind have been studied and proved time after time. You don’t have to become a fitness expert, but after a while, you’ll notice a boost in confidence and in your ability to deal with stress.
The same way you train your body, you can train your mind. Busy mind, healthy mind, they say. Make a space in your daily schedule for reading. It will keep you informed and it will help you expand the limits of your imagination.
Surround yourself with people that make you feel good about who you are and what you do. Find someone who can help you push through your limits and makes you want to become a better version of yourself. Optimistic people will have a huge impact on your daily mood. Having friends that support your goals and surrounding yourself with already successful people can work as a support system–Consequently you’ll be able to better handle all the things that overwhelm you.
Don’t Let Anybody Define Your Success
Achieving success is not always easy, but if you look around and ask a successful person what they think about it, you’ll notice that most of them will tell you that having a big house and a fancy car is not synonymous with being successful. In fact, most successful people are aware that this is a state of mind in which, as described by the Cambridge Dictionary, you feel that you have achieved your aim or a purpose.
Forget about all your material belongings for a while, forget about the famous people and the influencers and focus on finding your own path. It’s going to be tough- but remember that Rome was not built in a day and all the efforts you make today will pay off in the future.